Anyone who seeks treatment by committing to do the work and is willing to pay for it, can be treated.
Note, carefully though that this is not about simply asking for help, casually. Many people who enter psychotherapy want the psychotherapist to ‘rescue’ them or to ‘take care’ of them. They don’t understand that effective psychotherapy is hard work, which requires them to take responsibility for their own lives, which is why very few are willing to listen to my advice, and the advice of other psychotherapists who have a genuine interest in their well-being, even if they think they want it.
Why? Because there’s a ‘part’ of them that cannot take it. There’s a ‘part’ of them that doesn’t want to succeed, that doesn’t want to heal, and there’s a ‘part’ of them that knows that others don’t want them to heal either. It’s easier, more comfortable, and less frightening than doing the hard work of psychotherapy, which requires that you be willing to explore your unconscious, recognize that you have emotions and name them, talk about transference and not hide, run away, or bolt when we get to the hard stuff, and that you be willing to replace hate with love.
You are free to talk about your sessions with anyone that you want however much you want about what happens in your sessions. But when you seek out private psychotherapy, there are really only two individuals who know exactly what happens in the sessions. One of the individuals is, of course, you and the other person is the psychotherapist who is treating you. The entire, psychotherapeutic experience, in my opinion, deserves a great deal of respect and reverence. When it is not treated as such, one of the main issues that comes up is ‘triangulation’, which is destructive to the therapeutic process. Still, it is your life, and you are free to tell anyone who will listen to you what you do with your life. You have been given the proper warning.
In other words, it’s important for you to trust the process and understand that perseverance is the final key to success.
If, however, you have a legitimate psychological safety concern, this should be discussed with your psychotherapist. Termination is always an option, and this should take place over a period of one to two sessions, without anger, so that you may return at any time. We can discuss more as part of an initial consultation.